The Single Parent Division
Dads today want a more active role in their kids' life and be a do-it-all dad. The struggle is in finding the right work/life balance. According to The New Dad: Caring, Committed and Conflicted, fathers today want to have an equal share as caregivers to the kids, aside from being the traditional breadwinner.
For the single parent home, with the dad at the helm, the “mother's task” syndrome that was the norm of our parent's households has long been replaced with the do-it-all dad.
Not all dads are lucky enough to work for a family-oriented boss who understands soccer games and dentist appointments. So how do you do it? How do you become your kids' super dad?
Let's face it, no matter how much we want to put our kids first, there will always be instances when the demands of the job cannot be put aside. Flying home for 2 hours to attend a soccer game when you are assigned in another state is possible if funds are high. Sit down and assess your life goals and how it blends into being a dad and a promoted executive.
Map out your priorities according to where you want your family to be. Having a plan will ensure that you don't miss out on your child's growing years while you set your career goals.
Ever heard of the saying “work smart, not hard?” That has been an overarching philosophy that I use while building a business as a single parent.
Pick the most important ways to make a difference. You can't do it all, but you can do something meaningful and that will help your kids feel important. The key is to be fully committed to whatever time you spend with them. Quality wins over quantity any day.
Promises are Sacred
Keep your promises. If you tell your kid that you will be there, be there. Don't forget that kids are like elephants, they never forget. Whether it is a baseball game or pizza night, your time and attention are important to your kids... Be there.
At my daughter's school they do "Muffins with Mom" for Mother's day and they celebrate "Donuts for Dad" for father's day. It didn't seem like it would be a big deal to her, but it was. On Mother's day, she got to show off her mom to her friends even if it was only for 10 minutes before I went to work... I had hoped that her dad would show up too, but he didn’t. So I got some bonus time to hang my daughter, the other dads and I got his donut.
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