Who is punishing who?
Ok, so when my daughter comes back from her dad's house... there is a distinct transition period. She pushes the limits demanding to watch tv and throwing tantrums when she doesn't get her way.
A certain amount of this is to be expected. But tonight, she just broke my heart.
When she gets mad (and she is 2.5 years), she flails her arms. If I am close enough, the flail is a hit...usually to my face.
Tonight she hit me once. I scolded her. And she hit me again with her tooth brush. I was totally annoyed and asked her to tell me sorry. She said "NO"!
Anyway, after she got out of the bath, I gave her the choice. She could say sorry and we would read a book... Or she could go straight to bed.
I followed through and put her to bed...Nanny 911 you give me strength!
A couple of minutes later, I went in and said "It's not nice to hit. Are you ready to say sorry to mommy?"
I followed through again...almost in tears this time. I haven't seen her in two days and I just wanted to hug her.
This time, I gave her more like 5-10 minutes...until the crying (from both of us) subsided.
I went back into the bedroom. She hugged me and said "No hit momma...".
This time it worked, but man, it really stinks to have to be the responsible one sometimes!
So, what do you do? How do you handle the transition period...without punishing yourself?
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